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The coldness is making me eating alot. Been eating and eating and eating.. and eating.. As I am typing, I am eating Hazelnüss Ritter Sport while having a glass of Fanta Orange.

Yesterday I wasn't feeling well. I was just lying on the bed tak larat nak buat apa. It was around noon that I decided to take a shower after I could see very little sunlight. SO la la la I am singing in the hot shower when suddenly the shower went kaputt. I had soap and syampoo sume. Tensyen! Air stopped. And I had blogged earlier how it is showering in this weather. The transition between after having shower and bersiap² is the worst part. So imagine the situation I am in. So kalot la pakai air singki. Demmit.

I memang tak puas hati. So I decided to go to bandar since I had to go and buy potatoes and sayurs and some meat. So singgahla Bauhaus. I saw a nice shower thingy and it had a shower radio in it for free.. Yippie. Ok la, balik² excited ni nak install the thing in my bathroom. So, settle pasang shower menggunakan playar. It took me 3 minutes to do it. Not bad la memori KH form 3..

I decided to reward myself dengan memasang 2 heater serentak sambil pasang computer. So, after a few minutes, POOF! the electricity went out. Aduh.. apa ni? Not another Day 5 mishap! The fuse went kaputt pulak in our bedroom. Frustrated and cold. I shifted everything to Unsere Wohnzimmer (our livingroom) and hung out there. Watched a few episodes of Kings of Queens and slept during The Gilmore Girls (they talk really fast.. and I dunno dah season berapa dah because Rory is with a new boyfriend now). Skali my husband called to check on me. Sejuk la pulak in the living room. I decided to call home and of course bila borak with Mama, I will forget everything that happened and started to make Beef Stew.

So.. anywayyyyyyyyyyyyy, this post is actually about Comments. I was browsing through facebook (biasalah.. as much as a blog about how much I don't fancy it, I still do). I realized some people who simply assume and dengan selambanya put some comments that may seem 'baik'.. For example, if a person puts a comment about her constant eating habit, people simply assume that she is pregnant dengan meletakkan comments² like this..

'pregnant ke?' - [oh please, be more obvious will ya]
'ada 'si kecik' dalam tu kot..' - [always followed by 'hehehe' ..nak berlapik la kire]
'dah berapa bulan ? tahniah' - [selambenya jumping into conclusion]

I have seen this happened to myself and to other people who I personally know that are having problems conceiving. And I don't appreciate those kind of comments and I find it really offensive when I read it even when it doesn't happen to me. Apa diorang dapat dengan tulis those kind of comments ?

Satu lagi if people assume that if a person is gonna get married. Or dengan selambanya menanyakan soalan tu in public. What if that person is single ? Or seeing someone tapi mcam tengah in a very sensitive stage. Tak ke menjejaskan relationship orang ? I think people should really tapis what they are gonna comment.

I think if it happened to me, I think ok lagi kot.. Tapi for those yang memang sedang ada masalah that they are aware or not aware of, they should not say that.. Just shouldn't.. Kita mana tau problem orang .. Padahal status dia pasal eating disorder jer.. Or sometimes letak gambar, nampak berisi sket je orang terus jump into conclusion. Kita nampak orang tu rilek jer.. Tapi dalam hati dia, kita taktau.. Jadi, as a social networker, I merayu pada other social networkers, soalan² or comment² sensitive, biarlah simpan dalam hati jer.. or another way of saying it, if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all..

Customer Service

I'm sure you've heard of this saying, 'Hujan emas di negara orang, hujan batu di negara sendiri, lebih baik di negara sendiri'.

On the last few days of my stay in KL, the usual 'stocking-up-food' to be mailed to DE took place. Biasalah, beli segara perencah², serbuk merbuk, ikan bilis kering, keropok, milo, all the 3-in-1s, maggi etc etc.. U get the idea. Anyway, me and my parents dok sebuk la packing about 20kg of these dried food to be mailed. I have done this before back in end February and alhamdulillah it reached here in DE in early April. safe and sound.


This was my experience in February2010 at Pos Office Kg Tunku. (POG = Post Office Girl)
POG : Nak pos ke mana kak?
ME : Nak pos ke Germany
POG : Ada berapa kotak ?
Me : 2 kotak, 1 kotak 10kg..
POG : Ok (handed me the consignment note to be filled)..
I filled up the consignment note and handed it to her to check.
POG : Em, akak, makanan tak boleh hantar..
Me : Oh ? tapi ni dried food..
POG : Haa.. skrg ni mmg strict sangat... tak boleh hantar apa² jenis makanan pun..
Me : Ye ke ? tapi selalu mak saya hantar ok jer..
POG : Pos ofis kat mane tu kak ? Mungkin pos ofis lain tak kisah kot.. Pos ofis ni mmg boss kami tak terima..
Me : Kat pos ofis ni la (muka tak puas hati)
POG : Itu dulu kak.. skrg ni ada ruling baru.. mmg makanan kitorang tak terima..
Me : Hm... ok la takpe la.. ni ada lagi satu kotak ni..
POG : (checking the consignment note) Baju² pun sbnrnya tak boleh kak..
Me : (what the f!!!) What ?? Baju pun tak boleh ? Habis apa je boleh hantar ? Macam ne orang nak pindah² sume.. nak pos baju pun tak boleh ???
POG : (muka takut) Jap eh kak saya check kejap... (checking with other people in the pos office)
Me : Kalau baju pun tak boleh, tak payah hantar apa² la.. kalau nak pindah semua kena angkut dlm kapal terbang, bayar beribu ribu.. nak pos baju pun tak boleh (membebel to self)
POG : Ok kak.. Sbnrnya mmg tak boleh, tapi boss saya ckp terima je la.. tapi kalau apa² kita tak bertanggungjawab..
Me : Ye.

KEREKNYA! After that, we went to Pos office kelana jaya to mail the dried food. The guy terima je mcm biasa takde prob pun! Kerek aa minah kat Kg Tunku tu!

Another incident happened to me last week when I wanted to mail the 20kilos of dried food. (POM = Pos Office Man)

POM : Nak hantar ke mana kak ?
Me : Ke Germany..
POM : (checked the consignment note after I have filled it) .. Akak nak hantar dried food ker? errmm.. maaf kak, dried food mmg tak boleh..
Me : (muka tak puas hati) Eh, ye ke? dulu i hantar ok jer..
POM : Ke Germany ke kak?
Me : Haah kat Germany..
POM : Bila akak hantar..
Me : Saya hantar bulan 3 tahun nih..
POM : Oooh dia ada ruling baru kak.. sejak lepas raya, mmg tak boleh hantar makanan langsung..
Me : Ruling ni datang dari mane? Dari Malaysia ke dari germany?
POM : Dari sana kak.. kalau kat UK memang tak boleh hantar mkanan.. Dia bagi surat semua ada...
Me : Ye ke ? Germany bukan UK dik..
POM : (muka panik n mcm taktau nak letak mana).. Memang ada surat kak.. dia ckp dari negara² belah² sana memang tak boleh.. kat² Eropah.. ada surat dia tulis.. mmg surat tu dari negara diorg
Me : Ye ke.. nak tengok sikit surat tu dik.. Sbb u ckp UK.. mungkin Germany boleh ke.. Sbb setahu saya Germany bukan UK (perli)
POM : Kejap kak, saya tunjuk surat tu.. (sambil cari²) Tak pun akak try mailing services lain ker.. mcm DHL ke..
Me : Kejap, You ckp ruling tu datang dari belah² sana kan?
POM : Ye kak
ME : Habis kalu dari belah² sana, kalau pos malaysia pun diorg tak terima, dari DHL pun diorg tak terima la.. betul tak? You paham tak konsep dia?
POM :errr.. betul jugak tu kak.. (panik) kejap kak saya cari surat..
Me : Ok, saya tunggu

After 15 minutes

POM : Kejap kak, surat tu ada.. tp saya kena panggil bos saya kejap.. Boss saya yg simpan surat tu
Me : Haah.. saya nak tgk la surat tu, sbb u ckp UK.. Germany is not UK..
POM : Kejap ye kak

Boss dia pun dtg..

Boss : Puan, maaf puan.. surat tu ada kat KL Sentral.. tp Puan boleh check la .. saya bagi nombor nih.. 1300 300 300
Me : Your staff ckp memang ada surat.. Mcm mane u boleh tak terima kalau u takde copy of the letter ? Takde black n white pun..
Boss : kita memang ada terima surat tu.. tapi surat tu kat KL Sentral.. dia memang ckp negara2 UK tak terima..
Me : (sama bengong dgn staff) Saya nak hantar ke Germany, Saya akan ambil risiko tu. Germany is NOT in UK. And saya nak tengok surat yang your staff ckp negara² belah sana yang tak bagi bawak masuk dried food. sbb selama ni saya hantar , takde masalah. and kalau ada masalah kat sana, diorg takkan buang, diorg akan contact receiver and panggil ke pos office and bukak depan receiver sbb diorang takde hak nak bukak tanpa penerima sbb itu memang policy diorang..
Boss : (speechless) Puan boleh call nombor ni la.. kalau nak tengok surat tu.. ada kat KL sentral.. ni ruling baru puan.. sejak lepas raya haritu..

ME :(tenung dia lama saje nak menakutkan.. depa ni tak paham statement aku apa) Boleh bagi exact date tak ? U mesti penah tgk surat tu kan ?
Boss : Dalam awal bulan ni.
Me : Kalau saya boleh tengok surat tu lagi bagus. Takut u tersalah negara. Sbb u dgn ur staff ckp UK.
Boss : Sbnrnya memang dari dulu tak boleh.. Dari dulu² lagi.. mungkin Puan boleh cuba DHL atau express service yang lain...
Me : Saya rasa pelik lah.. Kalau u kata negara diorg yg tak bagi masuk, i pergi services lain pun, mesti sama jugak.. Jadi saya rasa pelik la.. Your staff pun ckp surat tu ada, tapi you pulak ckp surat tu kat KL sentral. maksudnya surat tu memang tak penah ada kat sini lah. Cuma pelik lah kalau takde black n white, you all tak nak terima bungkusan nih tanpa sebab yang konkrit..
Boss : Surat dia ada puan.. kat KL sentral.. Hardcopy dia memang simpan kat sana..
Me : Takpelah. Terima kasih. Saya akan contact Pos Office besar and ceritakan Hal ini.

Pelik lah how they work. I was seriously soo pissed off with them. Walaupun cara diorang ckp tak lah menyakitkan hati but the fact that they work like that, main sukati² jawab je.. Germany is NOT in the UK ok.. And you work in the post office you dont know that ??? ape nih ? Anak sedara i yang darjah 3 pun tau.. And dgn confiden ckp ada surat ada surat, bila i mintak produce takde lak tuu.. and I had to wait 15 minutes. Kalau betul takde surat, ckp je la.. pemalas!!

Yesterday, I called mama and she said she had mailed the package at Pejabat Office besar in Dayabumi. There were no questions asked and the people even helped my mom repacked the boxes.

Tak kecoh. Geram geram! Geram kat Pos Office KJ and KT!!! Siap la, akan ada complain letter to New Straits Times..

Hands in my pocket

I have a confession to make. I had my subuh prayers at almost di penghujung waktu. Bad, bad I know. Reason is, it is so cold here (-2°C) and nak pengang tombol pintu pun cepat² je lepas kan. My tingkap dapur (mein küche fenster) is kaputt so it can't be closed properly. Resulting to the kitchen being super cold especially when I wanna prepare breakfast for my husband. Brrr... Nak basuh pinggan pun tunggu dah tengah hari sikit. And I have to think twice or thrice or how many times before taking a shower because the thought of walking to the bathroom is satu hal. N then I have to leave the shower running forawhile to wait for warm water. The challenge is not taking the shower. The challenge would be the time after having that hot shower and when you turn the shower off, that time you nak lap lap badan, the coldness kinda creeps up so fast, you regret having a shower at the first place. But when you are taking the shower, rase best because ada hot water. Rase nak mandi lama² pun takpe. Tapi LEPAS mandi tu, yang horror.

We have our daylight saving coming up this Sunday. I still confuse myself on the changing hour bit. Pukul 7 jadi pukul 8 ke pukul 6? Now that sunlight is very little on this part of the world, when you see sun its like whoaaa! Even so, sometimes it might be sunny and you are all excited and everything to go out. But actually the weather is soo much colder!

I experienced this yesterday when I decided to go out, experience the natural sunshine heat after days being in the room with the heater. While waiting for the sun, I decided to learn how to use the GPS on my handphone after months of never using it. So, excited la ni. Nak beli daging using GPS, although I know very well where to get daging. The getting ready to go out process is abit longer now that it's the Fall season. Baju kena berlapis², have to remember to wear jacket.Going out in Mannheim feels different after a month in KL. Kalau in KL, naik kereta, cari parking paling dekat dengan pintu, takyah bawak beg, bawak purse je cukup. Kinda miss those priviledges (betul ke eja nih?). Anyway, once I stepped out of the house, the weather was so cold, I had my hands in my pocket all the time. There goes my GPS experiment. Sejuk sgt, tak larat.

Went to the bank to take out some Euro (since I only had RM7 dalam wallet) and took the SBahn No. 3 to Markuskirche, took the bus (63) to Neckarau-Übergang and SBahn No. 1 to Friedrichstraße. There I walked to Seilwolf to buy my groceries. Tak banyak beli kalini. I decided to buy only the necessary stuff since we bought a whole lot in KL.

When I came back, a friend msg me. An old friend. Memang syok la kalu borak dgn dia. Walaupun jarang².. She is sempoi, average Jane but riding on her road to success. Diam² ubi. Gila² dia pun, sometimes her words are of substance but not in a way that makes you feel small.

LEsson for today and yesterday : Smart women usually KISS. Smart women usually Keep it Sophisticatedly Simple.  

Back in Mannheim

Salam everyone. I am back in Mannheim now. To those who follow my blog, you must have noticed that I changed the template (again) of my blog. It is now the Fall season here.

Once again, the whole family sent me off at KLIA. All the time that I was there, I felt sad but tried so hard not so show it to my family. Pretending to be strong. I know for sure that I will miss them dearly. Even though the technologies have advanced so rapidly and that I can talk to my parents almost everyday, perhaps even more often than people who are in Malaysia, it is still not the same. But I know inshaAllah I will pass this phase. It's always hard at first, but eventually, as the days become more routine, I hope that I will be okay.

When they sent me off, mama made Curry Puffs and Caremel Pudding and my sister brought Fried Kuey Teow from home. We ate at KFC like it was just like home. That's my family. Everywhere we go, we would always feel like home.

The holiday was great, even though one month is not enough. But inshallah, I hope to see each and everyone again next year when I return.. or if they decide to come and visit me here could be super cool :)

The flight was okay. I slept throughout most of the journey. But I managed to finish watching The Notebook and ate all my meals. The movie was simply amazing. Despite being sad departing from my family, it made me realize that I will be meeting my husband and I know that he will be waiting for me at the airport.

Upon arrival, they announced the temperature (-1°C)and everyone simultanously said, oooooohhhhh!!! Imagine from being in a very hot country to a very cold one. I wasn't really prepared for the weather. I only wore a pullover and a spring jacket. Luckily my husband brought my winter jacket and gloves. My husband came with our old high school friend, Kurik, and we had breakfast at McDonalds. After that, we headed back to Mannheim via ICE. I knew it was cold when asap were coming out of my mouth when I breathed.

True enough when my friend said, Fall is very nice here in Mannheim. I wanted so much to take out my camera to snap some pictures when I was on ICE but I was too tired. Perhaps one day I might go out to do some photography. Hope I wont get lost in the forest again :p

Ok people, this is just to update you upon my arrival here. I am missing my family at home so much and hoping and praying that they will come and visit us here one day. Because I know they will enjoy it very much..

Take care people! Will upload some pics on the next post :)

Kuala Lumpur

Halo y"all.. yes2.. its been awhile since I've blogged. Tekan keyboard pun dah jarang. I am actually in Malaysia right now. Home sweet home. I will be back in DE inshaAllah next week.

It's great to be back of course. Meeting my family and going for vacation with both of my families (mine and in laws) and basically just hanging out and enjoying our kampung.

I haven't been active in FB or blogging. But today I am online because my husband is back in DE a week earlier because he has to work.. So I am waiting for him right now (macam zaman couple2 dulu) :p i cant even blog properly now.. but i will try..

Occasionally, I do log on my FB account just to check out how everyone is doing. What are the people's responses about the Budget and everything else. I decided to privatise my wall because most people dont know that I am back and I try not to reveal that takut tak sempat nak jumpa orang.. My priority is always my family.

I visited my aunties and uncles around KL area .. and also a few of my husband's relatives.. To introduce, to catch up and to visit for hari raya. Not so much of the makan. It's nice to meet them. Remembering where I belong, my kampung. Papa always made it compulsary to visit relatives during raya. It's just once a year. And I believe that it is good that he instilled those values to us. It made me remember where I came from. How my relatives are doing. and things like that..

Of course for every visit, there is always something to learn. And something that I learn. Uncles and aunties will always give advise.. about marriage.. about life.. general ones.. like 'jaga dia elok2.. duduk negara orang, elok2, etc etc..' although i have heard that a thousand times, it's still nice to know that people remind us about those little things that sometimes we take for granted.

A unique advise that my uncle gave me.. That really made me think.. "Perkara2 yang kita jangan tunjuk2 kat orang.. amalan, sedekah, aib, harta dan kesengsaraan hidup.. " You dont get that everyday.. Till today I still think about what he said.. Perhaps many would beg to differ on this.. But I think that what he said is true.. Kalau kita sedekah, perlu ke semua orang tau ? Amalan2 yang kita buat.. What is the motive of announcing in FB kita pergi solat di masjid setiap waktu ? (just an example) I have nothing against going to the mosque.. Alhamdulillah.. I only wonder the motive of updating status on amalan2 yang dilakukan.. I believe that these things are only between you and Allah.. Sharing it to the world doesnt mean that you will have more pahala.. If you are sincere in doing the things you do in the way of Allah, rewardnya inshallah lebih tinggi..

Of course this is just an opinion.. Something for me to think about .. salah ke saya tulis pendapat nih ?